People new to polyamory often ask where to find partners, especially outside dating apps. The answer is simple: be more open about being polyamorous. Poly people and those open to dating them are everywhere, but if you’re closeted—and they are too—you’ll never know you’re standing right next to each other. Almost everyone I’ve dated in recent years has come from my community, not apps. I don’t have much patience for swiping, but because I’m out and surrounded by polyamorous and progressive peopl